Amidst all the clatter rattle about feminism and women rights, the basic
chaos and questions remain the same!
What are we? One of the most beautiful creations of God, that was meant
to spread love, happiness and teach the world compassion or just a mere object
of desire to gratify the sexual senses of men?
I should look gorgeous because your eyes can feast on the curves of my
body? I should look presentable so you can ogle at me anywhere, anytime? I
should learn to say quiet in the crowded bus even when I can feel your fingers
running over my body like a venomous scorpion trying to measure me! I should
not go out of my house after it is dark because some of you may not be able to
control your libido if I am alone! I should not stay out late as I might get
raped because some of you are waiting like hungry wolves to attack someone like
me!
Why all the “shoulds” should be imposed on me? What is my fault? Oh, I
am sorry, I forgot, I should not even ask questions because that bothers you!
Do you even realize how difficult it is to ignore those lustful eyes and
lewd remarks some of you pass when I step out of my house wearing my favourite
dress gifted by my parents!
Have you ever thought how it feels when I am stalked
on roads, in malls and even on social media!
Do you know how it hurts me to know
that you do not respect me as a person, instead, I am just another object for
you……. Born to make you happy…. To satisfy your insatiable yearnings!
No, you haven’t. Why would you? Who am I to you?
You won’t give a damn
if I was groped, humiliated, molested, slaughtered or strangled to death. Oh!
Please don’t lie… So, does it really bother you? Really? So you are not one of “those”
perverted kinds, right?
So, did you do something about the teenage girls who were attacked in
West Bengal's Bankura district? Yes, Acid Attack.
Or about that 19-year-old girl from Adilabad district of
Telangana who was hacked to death for allegedly refusing a marriage proposal?
Or about that 22-year-old school teacher who died
after a man, whose marriage proposal she rejected, stabbed her more than 20
times on a busy road in north Delhi?
Or about the 21-year old pink city girl who had big dreams and was pursuing
Masters in Fashion designing but was brutally murdered by a boy who could not
take “NO” as an answer?
Leave aside doing something….. Did you even bother to raise your voice
against all these gruesome crimes? No you didn’t……. None of you came forward……
And that is what my problem is….. Yesterday, it was them…. Today, it
could be me and tomorrow…….? Will you accept and let that happen?
No… I don’t want any answers at all….…. If you really feel for women
around you, please initiate a change! Be that change.
-Aditi Jain "Adaa"
Are we really asking the right questions as a society?
ReplyDelete“Monsters exist, but they are too few in number to be truly dangerous. More dangerous are the common men, the functionaries ready to believe and to act without asking questions.”
I wish you could be a woman for 24 hours & undergo what we face! Still your views are respected!
DeleteI, very honestly and humbly, admit what you said there. I never, in any which way, meant to belittle the force and message of your writing. I am all apologies if what I wrote diminished your piece. Peace. :-)
DeleteHey! I respect men like you, but it is about "some self proclaimed mighty men" who unfortunately are becoming a majority in our society! No apologies required, communication is the door to exchange of idea :)
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